Experiencing domestic violence can be a deeply overwhelming and frightening situation. If you find yourself in immediate danger and need to leave quickly, having an emergency safety plan is crucial for your well-being. This guide provides step-by-step advice for creating a safety plan that protects you, your loved ones, and any essential belongings.
Preparing an Emergency Safety Bag
An emergency safety bag is one of the most critical tools for leaving quickly and safely. Pack this bag in advance, if possible, and keep it in a location where it can be easily grabbed at a moment’s notice. Choose a trusted place where your partner cannot access it, such as with a friend, relative, or in a secure storage unit.
Key Items to Pack
- Personal documents: Bring identification cards, birth certificates, Social Security cards, passports, and immigration paperwork.
- Financial items: Include ATM cards, credit cards, cash, and checkbooks.
- Essential keys: Pack keys for your home, car, and safety deposit box.
- Medication: Take necessary prescriptions for yourself and your children, if applicable.
- Clothing and essentials: Bring clothing for a few days, along with toiletries and hygiene items.
- Emergency contact information: Write down contact details for trusted friends, family members, shelters, and hotlines.
- Legal paperwork: Bring copies of restraining orders, marriage certificates, leases, deeds, and custody orders.
- Sentimental items: If space allows, include small, meaningful items such as photos or jewelry.
Deciding Where to Go
The location you choose to go should prioritize your safety and provide access to support. Many survivors turn to family members, friends, or shelters for immediate protection. If possible, research domestic violence shelters in advance as shelters often provide secure locations, emotional support, and legal assistance.
If you’re unable to travel far or access a shelter, consider safe public spaces such as hospitals or 24-hour businesses. Always ensure the location is out of reach from your abuser’s knowledge or influence.
Tips for Staying Safe
- Change your routines: Avoid familiar places your abuser may expect you to be. This includes workplaces, schools, or frequented stores.
- Use a safe phone: Try to communicate from a secure phone that your abuser cannot monitor. Prepaid phones can be a good option.
- Inform someone you trust: Share your plans with someone who can provide support or act if you need emergency assistance.
Protecting Your Documents and Personal Safety
Ensuring the security of your personal and legal documents is critical for rebuilding your life after leaving. If you have time, make both physical and digital copies of important documents and store them in a secure location, such as a safety deposit box or with a trusted individual.
For additional safety, consider the following:
- Secure your devices: Change passwords for email, social media, and online banking. Use strong, unique passwords that your abuser would not guess.
- Turn off location tracking: Double-check the location settings on your phone and apps to prevent being tracked.
- Work with authorities when needed: If you have a restraining order, keep a copy with you at all times and share it with law enforcement as necessary.
Empowering Yourself for the Future
Leaving an abusive relationship is one of the most challenging and courageous steps you can take. Remember that no one deserves to experience violence or control. You are entitled to safety, respect, and support. Building a new life after leaving will take time, but there are resources and professionals who can help you regain control and confidence.
Reach out to organizations or advocacy programs like Domestic Violence and Abuse Protection, Inc. (DVAP), where you will find compassionate guidance and unwavering support.
Are You Experiencing Domestic Violence or Abuse? DVAP Is Here to Help
Domestic Violence and Abuse Protection, Inc. is a non-profit organization committed to protecting the victims of domestic abuse. When restraining orders are not enough, we are there to provide the determined protection you deserve.
We are located at 3900 Orange St., Riverside, CA. Call us at (951)-275-8301 (24 hours). Alternatively, you can email us at admin@dvapriverside.org. Help is just one call or email away.
